Prevention is Key to Stopping Child Abuse in Our Community

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Child abuse is a community problem, one that affects all of us either directly or indirectly.  Research has told us for many years that childhood trauma has long-term negative impact for the child and society.  Adverse childhood experiences such as child abuse are major risk factors for the leading causes of illness and death in the United States, as well as for poor quality of life.  Not only do these consequences cost our children their happiness and well-being, they cost our community economically.  The rising cost of health care and mental health services, substance abuse, domestic violence, juvenile delinquency and drop-out rates affect all of us and have a negative impact on our community.  Programs that offer parents, teachers, child care providers, coaches and anyone who is in a child’s life tools to provide children with positive, nurturing environments have been shown to reverse that negative impact.  Effective prevention and intervention holds potential for lessening the suffering and trauma experienced by children and greatly reducing these economic costs.

It is easy to feel powerless and overwhelmed in the face of the headlines, but you can turn that anger and frustration into positive action for victimized children.  Here are some positive actions you can start doing today:  Ask if the youth-serving organizations in your community have policies in place that govern how adults interact with youth. Do these organizations offer regular trainings for staff and volunteers so that no one is left wondering what their legal or moral obligation is when abuse is suspected? Do they know how to make a report and whom to call? Do they perform background checks on staff and volunteers? How do they monitor adult/youth interactions? Look to see if an organization displays the Partner in Prevention Seal. Contact the Child Advocacy Center to schedule a Stewards of Children training. Lastly, pledge to not keep silent if you see, hear, suspect or in any way become aware that a child is being abused.  Sadly, we cannot change what has already occurred, but we can learn from the mistakes made and we can all pledge to become better educated and more aware of what goes on in our own community.

The Child Advocacy Center offers many programs to teach the community how to Recognize and Report Child Abuse and Neglect, and how to protect children from sexual abuse.  These programs include:  Darkness to Light – Stewards of Children Child Sexual Abuse Prevention, Chosen, Internet Safety 101 and Recognizing and Reporting Child Abuse.  Hundreds of thousands of children are sexually violated by adults they know and trust every year.  More than 90% of the time, the child is abused by someone the family knows and trusts, and that is why it is crucial for every adult in our community to become educated on how to prevent and recognize child abuse and how to make a report if they suspect abuse.  In Cumberland County, contact the Department of Social Services at 910-677-2450 or call 911.

Roberta J. Humphries, Executive Director, Child Advocacy Center

 

 

 

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Children are Born with Limitless Possibilities

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Every day a child is born into this world with limitless possibilities. Possibilities that can ensure bright futures for each. We as a community have the opportunity to support, strengthen and encourage each of these children.

Children our are future. There are three things we need to let them know on a consistent basis. “You are important! You are special! You are loved!”

They are important. Who they are matters. They are valued. Encourage them to explore, to learn and try new things, to discover just who you are.

They are special! They are uniquely made and designed with a purpose like no other. They have abilities that only they can do. As they explore, help them to discover just how those unique things about them make them special.

They are loved! They are loved for just being who they were created to be.

As we approach the month of April, we recognize it as being Child Abuse Prevention Month. For over 30 years now, April has been designated as Child Abuse Prevention Month. We want to bring awareness about the impact that child abuse and neglect has on our society as a whole. We do not hide the fact that the numbers alone are too great, and the impact is enormous. However, we don’t want to stop there. We also want to dedicate our efforts in encouraging individuals and communities to come together to support children and families. We all can recognize that a strong, stable family is the foundational piece that will lead to a promising childhood for all children.

The responsibilities of being a parent is enormous. Families facing hardships can be especially hard. Parenting is not about perfection. As we parent, we are to give it our best to provide healthy, nurturing environments for them to grow up in.

During the month of April, Child Abuse Prevention Month, let’s each commit to protect the safety and well-being of every child, while committing to raise a generation of children who can dream more and reach higher as they grow into responsible adults.

Over the next few weeks, you will begin to see blue pinwheels popping up all over Cumberland County. Shining in the sun, the pinwheels represent a bright future for our children and our community. We want all children to live in stable, loving and stimulating environments – at home, at school and in the community.

You can order a Pinwheel Kit today by visiting our website at www.cacfaync.org or coming by our the office at 222 Rowan Street.

Faith Boehmer

Prevention & Volunteer Coordinator

Child Advocacy Center

“What’s love got to do with it?”

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As we celebrate this month of love let us continue to show love, express love and be love.  Children need love and not abuse. Every child deserves a chance to experience the ultimate, surpassing feeling of love.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  Love does not dishonor others, love is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Love always protects, trusts, hopes, and perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

 

Children need love, as part of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, to explain motivation for behavior.  The social needs in Maslow’s hierarchy include such things as love, acceptance and belonging. At this level the need for love drives human behavior. In order to avoid future problems related to loneliness, depression, anxiety, abuse, and human trafficking, it is important for children to feel loved and accepted.

 

According to Prevent Child Abuse America emotional abuse also includes “failure to provide the emotional nurturing necessary for a child’s psychological growth and development.” Failing to provide love, support or guidance is destructive to the healthy development of the brain, and the attachment needed to create strong parent-child relationships.

 

It takes a village to raise a child and we all are a part of this village. I challenge you to find a child among your village and show extraordinary love to them today.

 

So what’s love got to do with it? Click on link to find out    https://youtu.be/BcYlA58E_ss

Jennifer Harrington MSW, LCSW

Trauma Focused Therapist

NC Trauma Bully, LLC

Everyday Hero

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During my early days of motherhood, my husband and I pulled out all the stops to make our newborn son happy.  For months, we juggled swings, bouncy seats, books, toys, bottles, anything and everything to make life easier.  Many days for us were spent just trying to survive.  My husband would look up lullabies on YouTube.  I would sing my favorite songs from the 90’s.  Finally, we discovered the magic of Sesame Street.

Our son was amazed by Elmo, and he loved to hear the Sesame Street songs.  We had found our “sunny day”!  After you listen to these same songs over and over, you begin to have favorites.  I am convinced that no one can sing the alphabet like Usher.  One of the songs that caught my attention was entitled “Everyday Hero”.  This song was performed by Aloe Blacc in season 46.  Sesame Street is dedicated to making children smarter, stronger, and kinder, and this song focuses on teaching our children to be kind.  The concept is that all of us can be an everyday hero simply by being kind.

The chorus says, “You can be an everyday hero, just show kindness and caring each day.”  As an adult, that seemed to be a message I was forgetting.  Sure, I remember to spread good cheer during the holidays, and I have paid-it-forward once in a Starbucks drive-thru.  I realized as I listened to the song that this is exactly what I wanted for my son.  I absolutely want him to be smart, happy, and courageous, maybe eat some green vegetables every now and then.  However, more than anything, I want to raise my son to be kind.  I want him to consider others better than himself.  I want to set an example for him in the way I live my life.

Our world does not always value kindness, and some of you reading this may think it is naïve of me to desire this for my son and for myself.  Nevertheless, I am choosing kindness.  I am holding to generosity and consideration.  That might be a challenge when I fight the 5 o’clock Skibo Road traffic, but if kindness is my ambition for my son, it has to begin with me.

April V. Coleman

Minister of Families and Children

Lafayette Baptist Church

Childhood Trauma and Brain Development

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Sometimes it can feel scary and overwhelming to help a child who has experienced trauma or neglect. Often a child’s distressed and dysregulated behavior can come out as aggression, whining, or inattention. In the middle of a meltdown, children often don’t seem to respond to correction, discipline, or boundary setting, leaving caregivers feeling helpless and frustrated. Sound familiar? What we need to do as helper grown-ups is to understand how a child’s brain has been impacted structurally and chemically by trauma and neglect experiences. When we understand that behavior is a symptom of a highly anxious brain, we can access many tools to help get to the root of the problem and seek out solutions.

Our brains are unbelievably complex and amazing! Today, let’s just focus on one important aspect of brain development. My mentors in the field of psychotherapy refer to an anxious brain as a brain with an, “Amygdala alarm”. The amygdala is kind of like emotional air traffic control for the brain… so when kids (and adults!) have intense experiences of fear and helplessness, the amygdala alarm goes off in their brain and the whole system jumps into survival mode. Following trauma and neglect, a kid’s brain has digested unsafe experiences and generalized them to other, less scary and more common stimuli (think of anything that engages your senses, like sounds, smells, visual cues, etc.) So the behaviors that you see from the children in your care are probably survival responses driven by an anxious amygdala.

Now that you know a little bit about how brains develop alarm systems and how a child’s body might respond to that stress alarm, you can start playing detective and discover triggers that lead up to big meltdowns. Enlist other caregivers and the child to help you discover ways that the amygdala alarm gets triggered, and implement new coping strategies to help calm down that stressed brain. Good luck, detectives!

For those of you looking for “extra credit” brain information, here is a cool video!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hMyDFYSkZSU

Bethany Matheson, M.Ed., LPC(A), NCC

Thrive Counseling and Consulting, PLLC

Giving Back to Give Forward

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It’s 2018, and a new year has begun.  While January is known for setting the stage for new year’s resolutions and providing us the opportunity to “start over”, it’s a month that also celebrates Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Day—a federal holiday that remembers a man who ignited the Civil Rights Movement to eliminate racial inequality.

Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. was dedicated to creating positive change in our society through serving others.  He once said, “Life’s most persistent and urgent question is: What are you doing for others?”  His accomplishments were definitely extraordinary, and it’s important to know we all have the capability to make a difference.  Volunteering for a cause you’re passionate about, even if for just a few hours, contributes to generating change in the lives of others.  If you’re driven to protect the children in our community, the Child Advocacy Center is the perfect place for you to volunteer.

The Child Advocacy Center (CAC) is committed to serving children who experienced abuse while also promoting prevention and awareness efforts to provide children a life free from child abuse.  It’s a place devoted to creating community change to ensure the safety of our children, and volunteers play a big role in the success of the CAC’s efforts.  As a volunteer at the Child Advocacy Center, you can give back to the children in our community in a variety of ways, whether it’s for a few hours, one day, or on a regular basis.

Volunteers assist with safeguarding sensitive information by shredding old files, provide valuable information to families by assembling the information packets given to them when their child reports abuse, and help spread the word about the center’s services and prevention efforts by preparing mass mailings.  You can also serve on one of the CAC’s committees, such as the Community Coalition Committee, if you’re interested in brainstorming and implementing ways to increase child abuse awareness and prevention efforts.

For volunteers who want to be directly engaged with the community, there are outreach opportunities such as participating in the Speaker’s Bureau to speak to organizations about the CAC’s work or setting up a CAC display table at local events to promote awareness about child abuse.  In April—Child Abuse Prevention Month—you can help distribute the symbolic pinwheel gardens across the community.  You can also be a reader during November’s 19 Days of Prevention when the CAC provides a 20-minute story time in classrooms to educate and empower children through fun books.

Additionally, groups can volunteer by making comfort blankets and comfort bags that are given to children who are seen at the CAC.  Given the range of volunteer opportunities, anyone can give back to the children in this community and help provide them a future free from child abuse.

So, as you establish your new year’s resolutions for 2018, remember the spirit of the upcoming holiday on January 15th, and consider what you can do for others this year.  Consider volunteering at the Child Advocacy Center, a place where giving back to children means giving them hope to move forward because the future will be a safer place.

To learn more about the volunteer opportunities at the Child Advocacy Center visit http://www.childadvocacycenter.com/how-to-help/volunteer/, or contact Faith Boehmer, the volunteer coordinator, at 910-486-9700 or faith@cacfaync.org.

Written by Vanessa Allen, CAC Volunteer

 

 

A New Year

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Let this “new year” actually be a “new year!” Could this be a new year that brings us a year without the horrors of human trafficking? If so, we first need to refresh our memories about the definition of human trafficking. According to Wikipedia, “human trafficking” is the trade of humans for the purpose of forced labor, sexual slavery, or commercial exploitation for the trafficker or others.”
Human trafficking has been in existence across the world for thousands of years and, unfortunately, still exists today. Those involved cross all backgrounds, faith, socioeconomic status, nationalities, and ages.

Newspaper articles, on any given day, paint the terrible and tragic outcomes human trafficked victims experience. Survivors need medical attention for abuse, possible drug addiction, STDs, and a full range of possible mental issues, including post traumatic stress.

This “new year” would definitely include the survivors of human trafficking and how their lives have flourished as they continue to heal.

During this “new year,” we need to make certain that all efforts continue to bring awareness and, above all, rescue those who are victims and prosecute the traffickers.

Join us at our Child Trafficking Forum on Tuesday, January 23rd, 2018 at 6:30 pm, Kiwanis Recreation Center, 352 Devers St, Fayetteville, NC

Panelists will include Adam Farnham, Cumberland County Sherrif’s Office, Dr. Dean Duncan, Project NO REST, and others. More details are on our website at http://www.cacfaync.org.